“Why me? Why is life being so unfair to me?
When life is getting tough and feeling you are carrying all its negativity, often we say ‘life is unfair’. We usually do ask, ‘of all people in this world, why me?’ Without seeing the other side of it, we keep saying it is unfair and just complaining how cruel it is. We’d never considered that we had anything to do with negativity. We just thought that’s how life was. We let ourselves a victim on it.
“It is the fairness of life that makes it seem unfair.” — Gugu Mona
But why do we keep saying life is unfair?
It is because we believe that it is unfair. We have different experiences and perspectives in life. But sometimes circumstances feel so unfair it’s difficult for us to let go. We may have persistent feelings of injustice and very good reasons for feeling that way. When we lived life in such a way “I’m unlucky”, everything that happened seemed to confirm that life wasn’t on our side. But the truth is, we’re making it that way.
“Life is unfair but remember sometimes it is unfair in your favor.” — Peter Ustinov
How to deal with life being unfair?
If LIFE seems UNFAIR, just embrace it. We don’t need to look far to find negativity these days. We’ll seek out the things that are awesome in our life. Think the positivity that gives us motivation to keep making it even better. Figuring out and accepting those things we cannot change will help us move forward and realize that unfairness is unfortunately something everyone experiences.
Few Things to Consider when Life seems Unfair:
- Surround yourself with positive people.
Surround people that will inspire you. Be with someone that will reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel.
- Focus on positive thoughts.
There is a positive side to everything. It just takes a positive mind to see it. A negative mind will never give you a positive life.
- Look for the good.
Learn to look for the good in every moment of your life. Look for something positive in every day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.
- Focus on what you can control. And be Grateful.
Focus on what you can do rather than stress about what you have no control over. —Catherine DeVrye
- Keep in mind that pain doesn’t last forever.
Pain never goes on forever. Embrace the pain, learn and grow from it, and thank it for teaching you valuable lessons. Pain can serve as a very valuable teacher if we accept it instead of condemning it and wishing it would leave us alone.
- PRAY. Trust God above all.
When life seems so unfair, pray and trust Him. Wait on Him, not your circumstance. And cast all your anxiety on Him. Why? Because He cares for you.
James 4:10 tells us: “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” In another translation that reads “Be humble in the Lord’s presence, and he will honor you” (CEV). And 1 Peter 5:6 tells us “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
As you go through difficult times and trust God in spite of it all, my prayer is that you will be able to say what David said, as he saw God’s protection and provision: “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless” (Psalms 84:11).
The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.
— Audrey Hepburn